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How to discuss divorce with your children

On Behalf of | Mar 31, 2023 | Child Custody, Family Law

Going through a divorce can stir up difficult emotions and experiences, no matter how amicable the decision to end the marriage is. This life event can also significantly affect your children’s lives, so their welfare must be prioritized.

Ideally, children must become aware of the situation soon after the couple decides to end the marriage. Having this conversation with the kids may be difficult, and here are some practical ways that may help:

Be in the right headspace.

Before facing the children, you and your spouse should agree on how to speak about the situation to them. It would be best to be on the same page and decide on the details you are comfortable telling them.

Explain the way forward.

A divorce opens a new chapter in your family’s life. You and your spouse will now be co-parents, which your children must understand. Try your best to clear up feelings of uncertainty that they may feel. This can be done by adequately explaining how the family dynamics can change during and after the divorce.

Reassure the children.

Divorce might be a foreign concept for most young children. This life event might make them feel confused and unsure about their future. It can even make them feel as if they are part of why the marriage is ending. It is vital to reassure them they are loved and have nothing to do with your and your spouse’s decision.

Seek counseling support.

There are cases when soon-to-be ex-spouses are estranged, and discussing divorce with the kids together might be impossible. In this case, seeking the help of a counselor will be essential. Counselors may assist in helping children understand the situation.

Legal assistance may also be crucial, especially when discussions lead to child custody. This will also be something that must be discussed with your children carefully.